In honor of Throwback Thursday…
My junior year of high school, I carpooled to school with a guy I had been friends with since early elementary school. At some point, my future husband started riding with us. In retrospect, this was a bit nonsensical since he had to drive past the high school to get to my house. Then again, perhaps he didn’t have a parking space. At any rate, at some point – I don’t remember when – the friend no longer rode with us.
My husband can be a bit obsessive about stuff sometimes and spending time with me was one of those things (still is). He figured out pretty quickly that if I was ready to go when he got there, I got in the car and we went to school. But… if I wasn’t ready yet, I’d invite him in and then he’d get to hang out with me while I finished getting ready.
He started arriving earlier. And earlier. And earlier.
This caused me a good deal of stress because I didn’t want him to see me before I had my makeup on. So I started waking up earlier. And earlier. And earlier.
And since I was waking up earlier, that meant he could arrive earlier. And earlier. And earlier.
He wouldn’t come to the porch until he saw the lights were on. So I started sneaking to the front door in the dark to see if he was there yet. One day, he wasn’t there but there was a large dark form of a man crouched on the front porch. How I stifled the scream before running back to my room, I have no idea. And why I didn’t report it to my parents? Also no idea. I just remember it scared the living daylights out of me.
My husband later said it was the Avon man making my mom’s delivery. Like I said, he wasn’t there yet but he saw the box. And probably had been there early enough some other time to see the man.
Since I was in the band and we had early morning practices, I left my house long before anyone else got up. (Side note: he was not in the band. That’s how much he wanted to spend time with me – he got to school over an hour before he needed to.) I never knew (or don’t recall) if my parents ever knew how much time my boyfriend was spending at the house in the morning. Or that he was deliberately coming early to catch me before I was ready. Or that him doing so made me at least a little bit uncomfortable.
I’m glad that it went the way it did though. If they had known, they might have warned me that the behavior was odd. And that I should cut him loose. Yes, the behavior was odd. But we’ve navigated his oddities for a long time now and I’m happy for it.